My son is dating the wrong girl
You won’t be able to be there to comfort him in the hard times or to celebrate with him in the good. You won’t have someone who knows who you are to care about what happens to you when you are sick or old.
Does all that really outweigh the fact that you think the choice is misguided? Talk, really talk about what interests her and what she is passionate about.
And, hopefully, they will honor you and trust you enough to follow your lead.
But if they don’t follow your advice, as painful as it may be, they may have to experience failure for them to learn for the future.
Talk through different solutions together—ask your child questions like, “So, given these concerns, what do you think we should do?
You won’t get to see him develop into his adult self.
Then, perhaps you can make a suggestion that you both can live with.
If it’s a serious relationship that might be heading toward marriage, you may want to give your child these .
For example, you might say, “I noticed last week that you skipped your classes so you could spend more time with John. ” Of course, then ask follow up questions as necessary so that they can come to their own conclusion about the wisdom, or lack of it, in their decision.
It’s important for your child to come to those conclusions themselves.