Dating a recent divorcee
If someone’s been married already, they may well have children.
In that case, you’re not only having a relationship with your partner but also taking on a role in their children’s lives, even if they don’t live with them.
It would be handy if we could avoid the vulnerability that comes with doing the due diligence and taking appropriate action where needed.
What we forget is that even if a person hasn’t just exited a relationship, aside from knowing our own boundaries (which can rule out certain things that we’ve already made a decision on in advance of), we cannot get all of the answers upfront or have someone tell us what ‘the ending’ will be.
Now, whatever the reason for divorce, one thing is true – the belief that marriage is for life has been broken.I personally know people who have gotten together while one party was separated, and in one case the wife refused to sign so they had to wait for it to lapse and got married as soon as it did a few years later, and in the other instances where it worked out, there was no faffing about with the divorce, Future Faking etc.In the situations where it work, the separated party overestimated their readiness and actually, part of the reason they dated had been to avoid their feelings about the demise of their marriage.While negotiations are taking place, a divorcee will have contact with their ex-partner, even if it’s only though solicitors letters.While this can be extremely difficult if there’s still animosity between them, it can be just as hard if they’re amicable – especially if you’re worried there’s a chance that they might be reconciled.